Category Archives: Retro CPO

Retro CPO: What It Feels Like To Be Adopted

Each month we will feature a “retro” CPO article, one that is pulled from our archives of quarterly newsletters. Whenever possible we will provide details regarding the author and date of publication.

This month’s Retro CPO article was written by an adopted child, J*, in the Winter of 2003.

My middle name is the same as my birth mother’s middle name. I live in Europe. I have two sisters, a mom, and a dad. They love me a lot. My birth mother’s name is L*. She placed me for adoption so I would have a dad and a better future. I’m not sad or mad for that because I know she did it for a good and right reason. I get to see her sometimes and I send her emails a lot and she writes back.

I was so young when my parents told me I was adopted I didn’t really understand. I didn’t even know what the word “adoption” meant. But little by little I understood more and more. I sometimes thing it’s cool to be adopted because it’s sort of special. But here in Europe it’s really hard to explain adoption to the other kids in my class. Adoption is not that common here and the kids that are adopted are not adopted at birth. They are usually in orphanages. Sometimes I feel bad for my mom because I keep thinking that she thinks I love my birth mother more. But then I talk to her about it and she says it’s all okay.

I think my birth mother made a good decision. My future is different and I have the greatest dad, mom, and sisters in the world. I’ll never stop loving her. There’s always a place for her in my heart, and a place for the rest of my family I know God has a special plan for me and a special plan for all the other kids in the world that are adopted.

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*The names of the women and children CPO helps are often redacted for privacy purposes.


Retro CPO: Cheryl Said!!

Each month we will feature a “retro” CPO article, one that is pulled from our archives of quarterly newsletters. Whenever possible we will provide details regarding the author and date of publication. This month’s Retro CPO article was written by Cheryl Bauman, our founder and executive director. It was written in summer of 2008.

We received an urgent call on the CPO hotline. A woman whose daughter was in school with a girl, who was planning a 21-week abortion, was desperate to save the baby and the precious girl’s LIVES. She needed one of the CPO staff members to meet with her the next day. I already had an appointment, as did all 5 of my assistants.
I looked to my daughter, Natalie, and asked if she could meet with this girl. When this dear girl heard about open adoption, she thought it was a great idea. NO ONE HAD PRESENTED HER WITH THAT OPTION. She didn’t even know what open adoption was.
I pray that each one of us at CPO feels an ongoing commitment to just talk to everyone about open adoption, so that everyone knows that it is an alternative to abortion and parenting. Very few young girls are equipped to parent their babies, and open adoption is a wonderful alternative. They have the blessing of having their children raised in a stable, loving, two-parent, Christian home, and the joy of watching that little on grow, and being a part of his or her life.
When Natalie and the girl went to Dr. Myers’ office and watched this unborn baby on the ultrasound, she knew she had made the right decision– a decision she can live with now, and later, with no regrets. She chose an awesome family to parent her baby, and is filled with peace.
God is so faithful.


Retro CPO: How I Feel About Adoption

Each month we will feature a “retro” CPO article, one that is pulled from our archives of quarterly newsletters. Whenever possible we will provide details regarding the author and date of publication.

This month’s Retro CPO article was written by a birthmom, L*, in the Summer of 2004.

My adoption plan was very quick. I met Cheryl and picked out a family the day before my son was born. I didn’t even meet the adoptive family until after I met my son. I don’t think any of us birth moms can put into words the emotions you feel when someone else leaves the hospital with your child and you leave the hospital with nothing, but it is a feeling I hope to never experience again. To make it worse, I didn’t even know the people who took my son home that day. But thanks to open adoption, I had the comfort of knowing that when he and I were ready to meet each other we would know where to find each other.

Open adoption is truly a gift. Living with my adoption decision is sometimes difficult, but all I have to do it look at all the pictures I have received of my son’s smiling face ad I know that I made the right choice. I was lucky to be raised in a good home, and now I am blessed to have been able to help and provide for my son the opportunities that I was provided as a child. I am truly blessed to have met Cheryl that day and to have found the right home for my son, C*.

Talking about my story used to be difficult for me, but now, one and a half years after I chose open adoption, I am excited to tell people in hopes that they will have a more open mind about all kinds of adoption, and a more open mind in their perceptions of unwed mothers. I recently gave a speech to a class at the University of Oklahoma about open adoption. Hopefully, through me and all the girls here at CPO, the message can be spread, and more babies given life.

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*The names of the women and children CPO helps are often redacted for privacy purposes.