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Christmas is Coming to CPO!

Christmas is coming to CPO!

We are well into plans for Adopt-A-Girl for Christmas Program.  Thanks to everyone who has volunteered to sponsor a gal and her kids!  We still need a few more sponsors.  You can reply to this email to volunteer.  If you are a CPO client, please reply to this email and we will get you enrolled!  Sponsors please remember to have your gifts wrapped, labeled and to the CPO office by Dec. 10th.  Our new office is located at 10207 E. 61st, Tulsa, OK 74133 Suite A.  The office hours are M,W, & TH 10am-6pm, T 4pm-8pm & F 10am-2pm.

A special thanks to Jennifer Brown and her family for decorating the CPO office!  It looks beautiful!
Let the festivities begin!


CPO News – I am Pro-life!

By Christina Domer

46 years ago a young, unmarried woman found herself expecting a baby. It was still a time when shame and scorn were heaped upon a woman finding herself in “the family way”. She was young. Unmarried. Poor. Scorned by family and friends.
The year before in a landmark case, abortion had been marked as ok and legal. She had a choice. A legal choice. Abortion would be the “easier” choice. An afternoon spent at a clinic and this pregnancy would be forever erased from existence. It seems like the better choice. She can’t parent. She just can’t parent. And the shame. Even if she could parent, how could she live for 9 months with this stigma?
But Life.
She must choose life.
She chose life.
With the help of a pastor, who loved and cared for her in spite of her choices, she chose life.
She carried me for 9 months. (likely longer, I looked to be about 6 weeks old when I was born)
She sacrificed her body, her comfort, her pride and then at the end let a nurse take me from the room to never see me again.
She chose life. She chose adoption.
That kind of sacrificial love makes her a hero. My hero. One I cannot thank. One I pray has been blessed tenfold by our merciful Father.

She’s not the only reason I am staunchly pro-life. Fast forward 36 years and another woman is choosing life. Life for the unborn son she carries in her womb. The sacrifice is made again and this time it’s not a nurse that takes that beautiful baby boy. It is me. A woman touched by adoption and then torn apart by infertility. A woman desperately wanting to be a mother. I’m grateful that my son has a hero just like I do. And this time, there is no shame. No stigma. And NO secrets. Just “birth momma”.

Three years later, my politics have grown more liberal as I see the need to not just be pro-birth but to be fully pro-life. How can I help these women who feel helpless. Who feel their options are limited to abortion or parenting. And so I serve. I love women in crisis pregnancy. I introduce them to my son and his birth momma and show them how life can be lived and lived well. I help them choose life and make an adoption plan. And soon I know I need another sweet miracle.

This time it’s a married couple. An anomaly in the adoption world. But here they are. Knowing they cannot parent at this time but loving this little one and desiring to bless a couple with a child. A few days later my daughter is born And we are a family. My husband, my son, my daughter, my children’s birth family.

I am pro-life first because I am a new creation in Christ and he is all about precious life. I am pro-life because my children and I could have been 3 of billions. And I am grateful. For all the lives that adoption has blessed me with.


No Regrets!

By Sarah, Elise’s Birth Mother

Elise was born in 2007.  She is now 14.
She goes to a private school, she’s loves horses back riding, is very good at art and is talented at many things.

I was 26 when I got pregnant with Elise and now I’m 40. I made an adoption plan for her with The Sprangle Family.

I see Elise and her family many times a year, we visit at the house, and go to church events. I don’t regret my decision placing Elise for an open adoption. It was the best thing for us.
She is with an amazing family and has so much going for her.

I parented two boys, Tyler and Ryan, who are now almost 23 and 20. Both are doing amazing with their jobs and living on their own.  From the beginning we have always stayed in touch with the Sprangles and Elise. The boys do get busy with life but they come visit Elise as well as myself. Elise and I text, we will have a day where we hang out at the mall, go eat and go to the Main Event etc, and  visit the Sprangles at their home.

Due to Covid, I lost my corporate job. I’m contracted through a staffing company until the end of December and I also clean CPO business once a week.  I was in the medical field for 14 years.  I also, love to clean houses.  Contact CPO if you need a house keeper!

CPO saved myself and my baby’s life and for that I will always be grateful.
At the time I didn’t have any family who agreed with the adoption plan.
CPO was there for me the day I made the call to meet with them.
They provided free counseling, classes, and making sure the baby and I had everything I needed. For that I will ever be so thankful for. I’m able to watch Elise grow up and be apart of her life and that is a huge blessing.

I prayed and prayed for God to help me through this journey.
So with God and CPO it was possible.


Adoption Trauma and Support

We may think that being adopted into a loving, secure Christian home would meet all the needs of any baby.  But many older adoptees confess that even though they had a wonderful childhood, they still struggle with feelings of abandonment, self-esteem, anxiety, anger and/or not feeling like the fully fit in with their family.
Even in the best of situations, adoption always begins with loss.  The loss of their biological mother at a minimum.  Open adoption certainly helps minimize this loss but for some adoptees, they may still find that they struggle with feelings of that loss, often mixed with love for their adoptive family.
At CPO, we have created an Adoptee Support Group for adopted people age 13 & up.  You do not have to have been adopted through CPO to attend.  This is a safe place for adoptees to share their feeling with other adoptees who may have or still are having the same struggles.
Our group meets every third Thursday of the month at CPO.  Our office is located in the Sagenet complex at 10207 E. 61st St Suite A, Tulsa, 74133.  The next meeting is on Oct. 21st at 7-9pm.  Christina Domer leads the group.  She is an adoptee and an adoptive mom.  She has been a part of CPO for over 10 years and has firsthand experience with most aspects of adoption.
If you are an adoptee and would like to attend, please RSVP by Sunday, Oct. 17th by calling the CPO office at 918-296-3377 or emailing Christina at christinamdomer@gmail.com.
If you are out of town, we may be able to connect virtually.  Please give us your contact information when you RSVP.


 


Adoption is Not for the Faint of Heart!

Cheryl Bauman has been helping women make adoptions plans for many many years.  In all that time, she has repeatedly reminded adoptive families that adoption is not for the faint of heart.  No story is more true to that than the story of The Faldie Family.  They were chosen by two other birth mothers prior to getting their baby girl.  Both of those birth mothers changed their mind (making an adoption plan is hard!).  During that time they took a foster placement with DHS.  At one point they had to give her back.  During all these trials, they kept the faith and now they can rejoice!  Please read Lindsey’s words below.  Fladie Family, you are an inspiration!

By Lindsey Fladie
In all my dreams I never could have imagined a family as beautiful as this. After three years of hoping to be chosen by an expecting mother at CPO we now await not one, but two adoption finalizations for our precious daughters. I’m so thankful God led us through those valleys. Without the wait, without each yes ending in a not yet, without each interrupted adoption, we wouldn’t have the family we do today. The whole time God knew we needed to experience fostering, to let go of our idea of what adoption looks like, and to fully learn to love others, specifically our daughter’s birthmom, in a way we had never known. Adoption changed our life by making us parents but even more so it changed our hearts.


Healing from Abortion

I have shared with most of you about the abortion I had when I was 19 but I haven’t shared as much about how God healed me, or actually is healing me.  If you are reading this and need healing from abortion, please reach out to me.  There is hope and forgiveness waiting for you.

After my abortion in 1983, I struggled with life.  I was not walking with the Lord even though I was a believer.  I was lost and confused.  About 4 years later, after a failed engagement, I hit bottom.  I felt beat up.  I felt hopeless.  At this time, God brought me a dear friend who invited me to attend a thriving singles group.  I finally surrendered surrounded by those who later became lifelong friends.  I came to the place where nothing mattered but Jesus.  I didn’t want to fight anymore.  I just wanted to live for Him.

Not long after that I met my husband.  He was the first Christian man I had ever dated!  When he proposed, I knew I had to tell him about my abortion.  I knew that this might be a deal breaker.  I knew he might say, “what kind of woman kills her baby?”.  I was terrified!  But I told him.  He showed only grace to me.  And then I realized that God would too.

We married and when we became pregnant, again I was terrified.  I didn’t deserve to have a healthy baby.  I knew I would somehow be punished for what I had done.   I was listening to Focus on the Family one day when they had a guest sharing about healing from abortion.  I was mesmerized!  I hadn’t really considered taking steps toward healing and seeking God’s forgiveness.  Actually, at that point I think I knew God forgave me but I needed to accept that forgiveness and forgive myself.  The radio guest shared practical steps toward healing such as, giving your baby a name, creating a memento, writing your child a letter, mourning your loss, and serving at a crisis pregnancy center. I began working these steps.

Healing came.

Forgiveness came later..

I mourned not seeing what kind of person my child might have become.  I mourned the grandchildren I might have had.  Maybe I will always mourn.  But I know I am forgiven.

I’ve often wondered if I had known about a place like Crisis Pregnancy Outreach, might things have been different?  CPO was founded the same year I had my abortion.  I wonder…

But I know I will be reunited with my child in heaven.  And hopefully someone reading this story will find hope and healing.  I am now the mother of seven healthy beautiful children.  Not only did God forgive me, He blessed me more than I could have imagined.

Kelly Jacobson


Welcome baby Mason!

    

One of the most fun things we do here at CPO are showers!  Every new mama who attends group regularly gets a baby shower or a personal shower.  This week we celebrated Elisabeth and her baby Mason.  Mason was born on June 23rd, 2021.  He weighed 7lbs and 10 ozs and was 20.5 inches long.  Elisabeth has been attending group at CPO since March 9th, 2021!  I asked her to share a little about what CPO has meant to her.  She said,

“I Love CPO.  When I first found out I was pregnant, I was terrified.  I started attending the parenting group when I was about 25 weeks pregnant and they have been nothing but helpful and supportive throughout my difficult Journey.  My son is now 2 months old and I see this being a great support system for so many years to come.”

We celebrate Mason and his brave mama, Elisabeth.


The served, serving others!

We’ve seen this happen over an over.  A woman comes to CPO in crisis and gets help from CPO.  Then years later, she returns to serve others.  Below is an interview with one such gal.  We love you Hannah!

An Interview with Hannah Albright
By Christina Domer

When did you first join the CPO family?
I first came to the parenting support group at age 19 when I found out I was pregnant.

How long have you served at CPO?
I have co-led the parenting group for 2.5 years!

In what capacity do you serve?
-Leading the parenting group with Tracie
-Helping match mentors and mentees

WHY do you serve?
In the last 10 years, God has shown so much provision over my life. A few years ago, I heard Him saying that I was supposed to return to the place that supported me through such a hard, unpredictable, unplanned time of my life. I am a member of Christian Chapel and one Sunday  morning our pastor was talking about CPO needing some volunteers and immediately the Lord told me to serve.

How has serving blessed you?
When God called me to co-lead the parenting group, my husband and I were in the midst of the storm of unexplained infertility. I felt a stab in my heart thinking that nothing could be more torturous than spending time around mothers and babies when I was so deeply longing for a baby myself. We struggled for 1.5 years to get pregnant, and once again, in God’s faithful provision, we got pregnant 6 months after I started at CPO. When you obey, God shows His goodness. So, in short, serving has blessed me because it’s taught me that the Lord honors obedience, even when it’s hard and we don’t see the outcome or the reasoning.


At Work with CPO

Meet Sarah.  She has worked in the CPO office since last spring.  She is a senior at Oral Roberts University majoring in Social Work and plans to attend law school in the spring.  Sadly, her fall schedule won’t allow her to work for CPO.  So we are in the process of hiring someone to replace her (if you know someone, see the job details below).  She will be greatly missed but has promised to volunteer when she can.  I asked her to write a little about her experience working for CPO.  Here is what she had to say.
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Working at Crisis Pregnancy Outreach was such a blessing. Not only was I able to work in a place that I believed in, but I was also surrounded by amazing staff and interacted with women who needed some extra support. I have always been taught about the importance of empowerment and working at CPO gave me the opportunity to empower women currently experiencing crisis pregnancies. I was able to learn about adoptions and connect with other nonprofits. This agency touches the lives of the most vulnerable and most debated population. Unplanned pregnancies are a sensitive topic and serving this people group can be tricky. But CPO has several services that don’t just help women physically, but also emotionally. Being the first point of contact when a woman suspected a possible pregnancy, allowed me to see the complicated experiences these women go through. I was able to listen and talk with these women at a time where their whole world starts to shift. I have learned so much and I will continue working alongside this agency, just in different capacities. I am so thankful for this organization and I pray that God will continue working his hand through this agency.
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Crisis Pregnancy Outreach is hiring a part time client care coordinator.  The hours will be 2pm-6pm on Monday, Wednesday and Thursday.  This is a perfect job for a student as there will be time to study and do homework.  The responsibilities include answering the phone, greeting clients, administering pregnancy tests, some filing and data entry and assisting the volunteer coordinator.  Starting pay is $12/hr.  Crisis Pregnancy Outreach is a ministry founded by Christian Chapel Church to help women facing a crisis pregnancy.  This job is best suited for a woman with a heart for ministry.  We are located at 10207 E. 61st St. Suite A, Tulsa, OK 74133.  To apply email kelly@cpotulsa.org.


Summer Happenings

By Kelly Jacobson

I thought Id fill you all in on some of the things that have been going on at CPO this summer.  We’ve had a number of walk-ins.  I love to show women around our new place.  They are always so impressed.  One expectant mom said she felt loved just by stepping in the door!  We are reaching more women!

In an effort to get the word to all women facing a crisis pregnancy in the Tulsa area, we have hired a consulting firm to help us identify where our target client is and how to reach them.  They spent a day interviewing me and other leaders and learning all about CPO.  They were so impressed with what we have to offer women and on fire to help us reach them.  I cant wait to receive their finding and suggestions!

We hosted a 3 day workshop for families waiting to adopt in June.  This workshop educates families on CPO and our mission, ignites a spirit of ministry in waiting families and educates them on many aspects of open adoptions.  It was a fantastic success.  Thanks to all the speakers who volunteered their time and to Kate Wicar for planning and leading it!

We have had many inquiries recently about support for adults and teen adoptees.  So on August 19th we are excited to be  launching a new adoptee support group.  It will lead by Christina Domer.  She is an adoptee, and adoptive mom and a long time CPO volunteer.

One of the things I love about my job is watching women struggle and overcome.  Sometimes over and over.  I hurt for them when they fall.  I want so much for them to find healing and hope.  Many times women will disappear and come back to support group over and over.  We’ve seen a few of those gals this summer.  Its so awesome that they know we will not judge them but will meet them where they are and help them move forward, as long as it takes.

Please enjoy the following poem written by CPO birth mother, Heather.  I was so impressed when I read it!

Heather

Just Wait,
Don’t Sell Birthright For Stew

Please just wait,
don’t trade your birthright for stew.
I know you want to feel loved.
I know you’re lonely
but just wait,
that’s not what you are looking for
just wait,  don’t fast food relationships

For those who wait on the Lord
God he will renew your strength (Isaiah 40:31)
just wait.
You think you get weaker but you’re actually getting stronger
God makes you stronger while you wait.
I know you’ve been waiting.
Ask The Holy Spirit, he gives you power and strength ! (Genesis 25)