My Baby Brother
Written by Ashley Conklin
Hi, my name is Aiden. I have a little sister. I love her very much. We do EVERYTHING together. I used to live with my mom AND my dad. I love my parents a lot. We used to live in an apartment together. We were so happy. Well most of the time we were happy. Sometimes my dad would drink this bad smelling stuff. When he did, he would get very loud and scary. Sometimes he would hurt my mom. I would be so scared and hug my little sister and tell her everything would be okay. I didn’t know if it would be okay or not. But I knew I was happy living with my parents, so I believed everything would be okay.
Then one time my dad drank too much of the smelly stuff and tried to hurt my mom and me. It was very scary. I still loved my dad, but he no longer lived with us. I missed my dad a lot. I loved him. But it was nice not being scared by him.
I still got to see my dad, this made me and my sister very happy. My mom would work a lot, so I missed her a lot. My dad would also work a lot. I missed him too. I I loved them both. He still drinks the smelly stuff, but not as much. He is just gone a lot. That is okay. I get to spend time with my other family when I am at my dad’s. It was cool. I had a grandma who watched me when my dad worked. I had also had another grandma who watched me when my mom worked. I wish they did not work so much. I missed them a lot.
One day, when I came back from my dad’s, my mom said she had a baby in her tummy. I was happy. I loved babies. I loved my little sister a lot, and was excited for a new baby. But mommy said this baby was special. He was going to answer a prayer for another family. I was confused and sad. What was a prayer I asked? My mom says sometimes a family cannot have another baby. And this makes them sad. So they pray to God, to bring them a baby. But why can’t God let us keep this baby I asked. I was sad. Did God care if it made me sad? My mom was also sad, I could tell she was crying. This made me really sad. I was mad at God for making us sad. I wanted to know why.
Mom gave me a kiss, and said I love this baby too. I Love you and your little sister a lot also. But I work so much for food, clothes, toys, and everything else. I prayed for an answer. I want to be home and play with you two but with another baby I would have to work more and more. This would make us all very sad. Mom told me she loved me and missed me too! I love her, but I was still sad. She told me that a different family will raise my baby brother. That way mom can spend time with us and not work ALL the time. Thinking about mom gone all the time made me sad also. I was still very sad. Mom told me this family was very special. And this baby will make them very happy. They loved us very much for helping them get a baby. Mom said this is called an open adoption.
I was less sad now and asked what an open adoption was. Mom told me it is when a family takes a baby home with them that grew in another mom’s belly. Mom pointed to her belly and said this baby is growing in my tummy, but it will go home to a different family. This is called an adoption. This made me sad again thinking about the baby going home with another family.
I wanted the baby to be my brother. I asked mom again why he can not come home with us.
Mom reminded me that she has to work a lot for money. We need money for food, clothes, toys, and everything else. If we had another baby. Mom will have to work even more. Mom said remember I will have to work all the time. And I love you, I miss you when you work. I told mom I love her too and that I also missed her when she works. I didn’t want her to work all the time.
I was happy this baby was making another family happy. But I was still sad about the adoption. Mom was still sad too. I now knew what an adoption was. An adoption is when a baby grows in the belly of a mom, but then goes home to a different family. This still made me sad. But it made the other family very happy. And it means mom will not have to work all the time. Knowing mom will still play with me made me happy. I asked mom if I can still see the baby.
Mom said yes! This is an open adoption, that means we will still see him, and sometimes we will go places together like the park. And we will get photos of him. And he will learn our names. This made me really happy. I really like babies and even though this baby was going to this special family. He will still be my brother.
Now when people ask me how many brothers and sisters I have. I tell them about my little sister, who is always with me. And I get to tell them about my special baby brother who was adopted by a special family. I still sometimes miss him.
But when I do, he comes to the park and plays with me!
This is so wonderful and written so well. I think it could be made into a children’s book that would help birth siblings to understand adoption.