Retro CPO: Why

Each month we will feature a “retro” CPO article, one that is pulled from our archives of quarterly newsletters. Whenever possible we will provide details regarding the author and date of publication.

This month’s Retro CPO article was written by a volunteer who is still VERY active at CPO, Kelly Jacobson. What a wonderful lady. It was written in summer of 2007.

At the Adoptive Family Support Group recently, I shared my thoughts on why God allows those who don’t want to get pregnant to conceive, and those who are dying for a baby, not to. Why God? Why did I conceive a baby at 19, when I was nowhere ready to be a parent? I couldn’t even make good choices for myself, much less for someone else. Why God, did you later take away my ability to conceive a baby, when my heart was dying from the longing to have one? Why?

I am no theologian. I didn’t grow up in a Christian family. I only started walking with the Lord, when I was 25. I don’t even know the names of all the books of the Bible, like my seven-year-old does. But sometimes I think I get it. Sometimes I think God shows me. I believe that the answer is that God wants us to need each other. As women who can’t give birth to our children, but have a supernatural longing for them, we need our birth mothers. As women who are in an unplanned pregnancy, we need help to make tough choices in a world where the “easy” ones are very acceptable and common.

Of course, God wants us to rely on Him. And, ultimately, He can make anything happen. But God chooses to use us to help each other. Think about that. The Creator of the universe wants to use us to fulfill His will. He wants to use us to do His work. He doesn’t have to do it that way… He’s the Creator of the whole universe. He chooses to do it that way. He wants to use you, adoptive families, to help Him heal the wounds that each birth mother lives with, when she is faced with such an enormous choice as whether to give her baby life and then what kind of life. He wants to use you, birth mothers, to fill emptiness in the heart of a woman who is dying to be a mom. He allows the unplanned pregnancy… He doesn’t have to. He places the longing into the woman who can have children… He doesn’t have to. He wants to because He wants us to come together in service and sacrifice to each other. He wants us to love each other the way He loves us.